On "Balance" at CTV, motivational speaker W. Mitchell talked about how he suffered and survived two horrific accidents (He suffered burns due to a fiery motorcycle accident and was paralyzed after an airplane crash) in his book "IT'S NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU, IT'S WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT." He also quoted "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." www.wmitchell.com
He sure has a positive outlook in life. Instead of dwelling in pain, he turned his loss into something useful, talked about it and inspired others who must have gone through some kind of loss and pain.
This is similar to what I have in mind, the reason I want to someday publish my memoirs.